Great questions, Ms. Serious for Platonic. I think you’re on the right track with your doubt in whether or not it’s possible for a man and a woman to be strictly platonic. While it’s true that most men do associate a female friendship with sex, there are sincere and good men out there who will respect you and your boundaries and genuinely value your true friendship… Just not on CL.
If I’ve said it once, I’ve said it a thousand times… This isn’t Hello Cupid (or whatever the hell that dating site is called). There are no chemistry tests in this place and you don’t get to choose who you want to chat with based on a thorough study of the guy’s personality traits. If you want quality men who are serious about having a true and real friendship with no accidental tit grab while hugging after coffee at IHOP on the south side of town so he won’t run into his wife’s family, I would advise you to look elsewhere. Somebody lied to you when they told you this was a great place to meet men.
Also… “Casual Encounters” boards are for amateurs who actually believe it’s that simple to find free sex in any given city. If you think that ad from the woman begging to recreate the action scene from “Up Your Ass #12” is real, you are seriously mistaken. Like there’s really THAT many women just sitting at home holding a cold strap-on watching the rain and wishing some random stranger would come over and keep her company. No mam. Those are all fake ads from guys in Argentina trying to scam you out of a buck, and the next thing you know, you’re savings is gone, your truck is repoed, and you’re sitting at home crying for your Russian bride who swore she was real.
I mean I’m guessing… That didn’t happen to me.
The legitimate action is in the “Strictly Platonic” section where there are real women who actually live down the street. Sure it’s just a platonic meeting, but there’s always a chance that you, too, might have a FWB agenda, only you’re hiding it under the guise of “friends of a non-sexual nature”. I’m not saying you are, I’m just reiterating how a guy who answers ads on CL might think.
You appear to be a really nice lady. It seems as though you really are looking for something real, and I commend you for that. My advice to you, my friend, is to just stay away from CL all together. Unless you enjoy beating yourself on the head with your laptop over and over and over again, I suggest you invest the time it takes sign up for a free dating site. Or at the very least, you should stick to websites where it’s understood that normal human behavior does not comprise of introducing oneself with a nice, big, full size image of one’s purple headed warrior of love. You will not find that type of sophistication on CL. I’m sorry. You won’t.
Good luck to you, mam.